By
Pastor E.A Adeboye
MORIZE: “Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake” (Rom. 13:5)
READ: Romans 13:1-5
Wives are commanded to submit to their husbands in all things (Eph 5:22-24).
Some wives find if difficult to submit to their husbands just because they are taller, richer, better placed, or more educated. Even if you were the president of a nation, God still expects that wife to submit to her husband in all things.
Submission is an act of faith. That means if you can submit to your husband in spite of contrary opinions and situations, it will be counted to you as righteousness.
Similarly, the woman is expected to submit to her husband as if she was submitting to Christ (Eph. 5:22). This means that it is not the man that the really submitting to, but the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. It also means the extent to which a wife can submit to her husband s the extent to which she can submit to Jesus Christ. A woman who cannot submit to her husband will not also submit to Jesus.
Show me a woman who is wholly submitted to her husband and I will show you a woman who is wholly following the Lord. Based on this be liars. There is a chain of obedience in every home.
Children should submit to their parents, the wife to her husband; and the husband to submit to Jesus even as Jesus submits to God the father. At any point this order is not followed, the obedience chain is broken.
“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything” (Eph 5:24).
The question is, how is the church submissive to Christ? The church is the body while Christ is the Head. All decisions are taken dependent on the Lord. To what extent is your submission to your husband? The only extreme is where your husband tells you to do something that will displease God or break your fellowship with Him – that is sin.
As long as you are not asked to sin, the wife must totally comply with the decisions of her husband. After making suggestions, you will pray for divine guidance for your husband so that he does not make wrong decisions.
You cannot be one with the husband you fail to totally submit to.
Please explain what you mean by wives should submit wholly to their husbands?
Is there any thing worng in that.. there cant be two masters in a boat..otherwise the boat will torpedo..However, the Bible also requires in the same breath that Husbands should love their wives…so if Husbands play there part ..wives will not have any problem in submitting wholly…and on the other hand..if wives submit wholly…husbands will not have any problem loving them wholly….so whichever way you look at it both partners in a marriage have an equal role to play in making a success out of their marriage.
In the Bible God clearly states there is only one master in the boat and that is CHRIST. Husband and wife are partners and the two join hands in running the home. If the husband is the head of the family it always fails but if CHRIST is the head of the family it will definitely work out.
Submissive wholly, means also that a wife should love her husband sacrificially, helping and supporting him, believing in him and submitting to him as he submits in Christ-like-love to her, Eph.5v22. This helps them both to live harmony, which glorify the name of the Lord in all spheres of their lives.
“Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She will not hinder him but help him all her life, Proverbs31:11-12”
nowadays if you n as not a good woman, your future is CLOSE.PRAY FOR ME THAT GOD CAN GIVE ME A GOOD WIFE.
Your comment is interesting..but carnal because it has not biblical basis.
I checked through the Bible again and this is what I found in Ephesians 5 vs.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
We can not be wiser that God…and we should not allow logic to replace the word of God. The Bible does not recognise gender equality in marriage. God’s word talks about the Husband being the HEAD, not partner of the wife. Disobedience to this simple instruction breeds conflicts in home and results in marital crashes
Regarding the statement “As long as you are not asked to sin, the wife must totally comply with the decisions of her husband.”
I feel that the interpretation of “sin” can be quite broad. I have an issue where my wife wants to confront her sister regarding her very disrespectful behavior to their parents (my wife’s opinion is now causing health issues with her parents). I have asked her to not get involved in order to not disrupt the relationship with her sister. My wife said she would do the same (speak to my brother) if it were my brother taking advantage of my parents despite my request to not get involved. I told her that her not honoring my request would not be biblical. She said that yes she could because I would be asking her to sin by allowing sinful behavior to take place from other family members against their parents.
What are your thoughts, is it biblical for my wife to not submit to my request in this situation?