| Memorise: “Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, withersoever the governor listeth” (Jas 3:4 )
Read: Ephesians 5:22-24 |
| “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22).
The Bible gives the blueprint for success in marriage. If you want Heaven in your home, follow the marriage manual – the Bible. It is not enough to identify your God-given partner, even though this is very important. If you know God’s will in marriage but fail to adhere to His instructions, your marriage cannot be as pleasurable as God planned it to be. Wives are commanded to submit to their husbands. Whether he is younger, less educated, shorter, smaller, or poorer is immaterial. James 3:4 says, “Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, withersoever the governor listeth”. The wife may be the large ship and the husband the tiny helm, yet to arrive at God’s destination for the family, she must submit to his authority. The woman may have the greatest and most laudable ideas concerning the home and running the family, yet God expects her to put them at the feet of her husband. If your family must arrive at God’s pre-planned destination, you have to submit to your husband. Another reason a woman must submit – voluntarily subordinate herself to her husband is because he is her cover. A wife that refuses to submit to her husband comes outside the cover God has placed over the individual and opens herself to enemy fire. Similarly, a woman must submit under her husband because God never designed her to be the head of the man. In any home where the woman is the head and the man is the one receiving orders, there will be trouble. The Lord Jesus Christ cannot be the head of that home. Submission to one’s husband is in obedience to God’s Word and therefore an act of faith. In what area should a woman submit? Verse 24 says in every thing. No exceptions! Some women submit in some mild areas but when it comes to an issue she has vested interest, she will not submit. Some sisters find it hard to submit in the area of finances, but the scriptures says your submission must be total before Heaven will count you obedient. To what extent is your submission to your husband? Ask God for grace to submit to your husband. |
| A woman who submits to her husband lives out the Heavenly mould. A woman who refuses to do this lives out a hellish mould. |
Wow!! This really spoke to me; in fact I feel it is an indication of what I should do regarding a decision that I have to make. I realize that I have been proud and arrogant regarding a relationship. God is so awesome!! This post came just in time Hallelujah!!!!!!!!!!!
Its been wonderfull.
These messages that are shaping our marriages.
Mwila
Lusaka
Zambia
Its been wonderfull.
These messages that are shaping our marriages.
Mwila
Lusaka
Zambia
Mobile +260969388292
Ok, I agree with Scripture entirely in the submission of the wife and in all G-d had commanded us to do in obedience and when the man loves the wife according to scripture then she is more than willing to meet his every need because it is out of his abundant love for YHWH, that he loves his wife and she in return has not problem of reciprocating that love, most women would do back flips to please the man she loves when he is a representation of our Holy Bridegroom Yeshua, however would or could someone please tell me how a woman whose husband claims to believe in G-D rebels against the Word of God and does not act as the covering but rather a dictator of the home , he’s in charge and its his way or the highway never listening to the wife or considering that she is a good thing that has much to offer but all he wants his life to be enriched by her treating her as a servant, child or as some one without a brain. I love to serve and give and do so but when it is forced demand and not one birthed from the love of her husband its not a pleasing thing and we still do it.
Many woman are responsible for allowing a man to influence them into marriage, and she firsts has to own that . Often times thinking that they are loved and cherished only to soon to find out that the husband acts entirely contrary to what he showed her in the beginning of courtship (she looks for the father figure she may not have had and so is easily deceived by a word or deed) . Now I know the wife still has a certain responsibility to be submissive in love to him up to a point, but what is the limit in YHWH’s eyes for her to be mistreated in an emotional way which is very damaging to her as is physical mistreatment , but she doesn’t want to leave the marriage. In physical mistreatment a woman can choose or should choose to get out of that environment, but what about a woman who wants to be pleasing and honor YHWH and serve Him, so she stays and makes the best of it her confidence being slowly destroyed.
Does anyone have any insight of how she is to live in an environment like that.
All christian woman ever hear from pastors is the message that the man can do and be as he wishes because he is the head of the home, and she has no choice, but is that the truth of G-d’s word? If he is not being the protector and covering of her and his children. Can someone shed some light on this? Thank you and Shalom
This is for Shalom. Galatians 5:22-24 , the word of God – not man, are God’s instructions for the wife. Notice, they come before the instructions for the husband. Her instructions, from God, are in no way predicated upon the the husband’s adherence to his instructions from God. If they were they would be meaningless, for what man can love his wife as Christ loved the church?
Likewise the husband’s adherence to God’s instructions for him are in no way predicated upon the wife’s adherence to her’s. For what wife can submit herself to her husband as she can the Lord?
I used to be a math professor in college. I don’t have time or space to elaborate here but scientific studies show that the successful math student is one who takes ownership of the learning process. He or she does not, repeat does NOT, blame others for failure.
Likewise, you must take ownership of following YOUR instructions. If you are successful in rationalizing your inability to do so, guess what? You’re still a failure. On the other hand, once you take this ownership you have the moral high ground. You are obedient. You feel complete. You obtain instant relief and can breath once again. Now and only now do your problems become your husband’s. Please read this paragraph again.
I have been a pastoral counselor for 30 years and and can tell you that these two sets of instructions in Galatians MUST be viewed independently. They are akin to Christ saying in Luke 6:42 that we must remove the beam from our own eye before we can even see the speck in another’s. As soon as we justify our failure to do so we become a hypocrite (Lu 6:42). Yuk!
Please don’t worry about your husband’s failures, immaturity, or disobedience. God will deal with him. I promise, he will not get away with anything. I leave you with 60 years of observing this principle and this statement, which I believe in completely: “If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, always be a loving and obedient wife.”
S.D. Harris, D.Min.
shurrrm@gmail.com
Correction: In my response above I referred to Galatians when I should have said Ephesians, a careless and inexusable mistake. Please forgive me.
Act of “faith” indeed. These words were given to PAUL who wrote the book. Pleease find me an original set of tablets or something, where JESUS wrote this, and I’ll believe it. My husband and I have a very equal marriage where no one submits to anyone’s authority, but no one gives orders either!! When we have a decision to make, we almost always come to the same conclusion at the same time. When we do disagree, we talk about it, and most LOGICAL point gets it. Sometimes it’s him, sometimes it’s me. We come to the conclusion through discussion, love, and reason. In all fairness to both of us, he and I are both extremely strong, and extremely weak, in several untraditional areas. He’s a gourmet cook, I’m a financial whiz. If we tried to do things the traditional way, me in the kitchen, him at the books, we’d fail miserably. We’d fail as miserably as we would, if we tried to fly from a cliff, by flapping our arms!!! We know what abilities God gave us, and we aim to use them together. We have a WONDERFUL marriage, not just in our hearts, but it’s wonderful in the eyes of everyone who has come into contact with us. They ask us for our secret and we simply say “following that which we get from GOD personally, and not listening to other humans.”
Hi Leah, I hope you’re doing well today and this email finds you happy. Please update us. You openly state that there are times when you don’t believe the Bible and your way is better. Is that right?