I Samuel 12:21,22
If you are a woman who has been hurt or abused by men, it is time to be loosed. But, you ask, “What do I do?” How can you break free?
First, you need to isolate the problem from the gender. You need to understand that all men are not the same. Isolating the problem brings healing. When you isolate your problem, you put it in quarantine and forbid it to infect all areas of your life. When you isolate it, you stop the enemy from using it to rob you of good moments in the present because of bad moments in the past.
Second, you must allow God’s love to pierce through the pain. It must be God’s love first, not man’s, because God’s love the only love that is perfect enough to pass your stringent test. His love is perfect and will cast out fear (see 1 John 4:18). His love will restore the opportunity for the little girl in you to have a loving relationship with a father who will not fail.
Love is God’s gift given against pain. You can come right now and lay your head on His strong breast and be healed. There is no molestation in God; He will not abuse you. You can trust Him. It is with Him that you can learn to unleash the love you have locked up.
But must not stop with God. When you are whole, you will be able to love others, even others who are imperfect and have flaws, without having flashbacks and associating today with yesterday. Out of the wholeness of your relationship with Jesus, you can regain the courage to experience love and life with others.
It is a born-again experience. It is freedom. It is God raising or nurturing a woman who is wrestling with little-girl issues. It is a chance to do it over again and this time get it right.
Out of the wellsprings of her relationship with her heavenly Father, she may be able to mend the breaches and repair the damages that have caused dysfunction to develop in her natural relationship.
The wholeness that reconstructed through her relationship with the father helps her to understand, appreciated, and develop a comfort zone with men. Beyond having a point reference, and that dispels the mystique of the masculine personality, she also has a comfort zone in prayer that is less suspicious and more faith-filled.
One of the greatest things that we are afforded as Christians is the opportunity to receive restoration in our areas of depletion. Thank God that we have a Lord who can be touched by the feeling of our infirmities (Hebrews 4:15)!
He is able to minister to the voids in us. This ministry brings us to wholeness. That wholeness in turn makes it possible to live as if the brokenness had never occurred.
Source: T.D. Jakes
