What does the Bible says about a woman, married or not, who is not a wife-material?
Someone who probably should know is the man, called the wisest man ever, who sampled one thousand women, having seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines (I Kings 11:3). Here are some of his sayings about such a woman:
Prov 2:16 It will save you also from the adulteress, from the wayward wife with her seductive words.
Prov 6:24 keeping you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of the wayward wife.
Prov 12:4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
Prov 19:13 A foolish son is his father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.
Prov 21:9 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Prov 21:19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.
Prov 23:27 For a prostitute is a deep pit and a wayward wife is a narrow well.
Prov 25:24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Prov 27:15-16 A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.
Prov 30:21-23 For three things the earth is perturbed, yes, for four it cannot bear up:
For a servant when he reigns, A fool when he is filled with food, A hateful woman when she is married, and a maidservant who succeeds her mistress.
Prov 9:13 A foolish woman is noisy; she is wanton and knows no shame.
Prov 11:22 like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.
Prov 14:1The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Eccl 7:26 I find more bitter than death the woman, who is a snare, whose heart is a trap.
and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare .
Other issues may contribute to a woman being a ‘married but no a wife’. Obvious from the above verses is that there are two broad features that make a woman not to be a wife material- that of negative attitude/behavior/character, and that of impurity/unfaithfulness.
These could be avoided and overcome if a woman grew up and lives the life of biblical purity and submission. 1 Peter 3:1-6 captures and summarizes this:
3:1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.
4 Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands,
6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. NIV
See also Gen 3:16, Ps 45:10, Eph 5:22-24.
What should a man of God do to his spouse who has turned out to be married but not a wife? The natural reaction is what Hosea exclaimed: “… she is not my wife, and I am not her husband…” Hosea 2:2 NIV.
But as Christians, we should do as scriptures teach and what Hosea experienced; The LORD said to me, “Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another and is an adulteress. Love her as the LORD loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes.” Hosea 3:1. NIV. Amen
7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 3:7 NIV.
See also I Corinthians 7:33, Ephesians 5:25 -29.
By the Lampstand, July 2004
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WHAT ARE THE QUALITIES OF A GODD HUSBAND!!?
How I love the word of God! Speaking of a good christain wife She apart from being born again the qualities of that woman in proverbs 31:10 should help be.10 [c] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate
How I love the word of God! Speaking of a good christain wife She apart from being born again the qualities of that woman in proverbs 31:10 should help be.10 [c] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate
I today pray this prayer in all sincerity. Lord help me to be a proverbs 31 woman.
day my day transform me to wife material. And I wait for my man to find me. Will you all
agree with me. God bless you all.
Today I ask God to be this Proverb 31 woman. Lord I ask of you that if anything that you see in me missing the mark of being this Proverb 31 woman. I ask for your forgiveness and direction to become such a woman. A godly woman in and out. So that I will be praised in the gates. To bring glory to God. Please pray…
I desire so much to fulfill d will of God in marriage and this has bn a blessing
ai desire to fulfil the will of God when ai get married.wanna mak ma husband happy each and everyday dat comes
i wanna b a woman of proverb 31 LORD help mi.am urs LORD JESUS am urs ma LORD as a weak woman as i am LORD tke mi nd use mi,transform mi in2 dat woman according 2 the book of proverb 31 AMEN.plz join mi n pray tnk u.