A recent US publication reveals that the rate of divorce in the US is growing at a geometric proportion. Two out of four marriages end in divorce: that stands at 50%. Marriage these days is tantamount to simply trying on a pair of pant to see if it fits, and if it doesn’t put it aside. Yet the consequences lingered and the adverse effects are seen in our society today. Rebellious, disjointed, and oppositional children are mostly product of homes with divorce parents. Juvenile delinquency is on the rise, and police have to combat with most evil crimes of our days borne out of children from dysfunctional homes.
Unfortunately, the rate of divorce in certain churches is almost as high as the rate of divorce in the World. There seems to be no distinction between professed Christians and what we call “unbelievers or sinners.”
God hates divorce with utmost hatred. God knows the devastating consequences divorce could have on the family, the church, and the society at large that is why He strongly opposes any attempt to indulge in it. Are you currently divorce and your partner is still alive? Remember, you may never get to Heaven until you are reunited with first spouse. “Don’t be deceived, God is not mocked. Whatsoever a man sows, he shall reap…”
God’s attitude towards divorce is clearly stated by the prophet Malachi. ‘I hate divorce,’ says the Lord God of Israel, ‘and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence…’ (Malachi 2:16). The God of the Bible, who instituted marriage for the good of mankind, hates divorce. Faithfulness is central to the character of God, he is faithful to all his promises and is faithful to his people. ‘If we are faithless, he will remain faithful, for he cannot disown himself’ (2 Timothy 2:13). Even though we are unfaithful, God remains faithful to us. Marriage is a covenant promise to live together as man and wife for life, and faithfulness is the knot that binds husband and wife together. Implicit within the marriage covenant is the promise to be faithful to our children, to love and care for them. Divorce breaks the covenant promise of faithfulness to those who are nearest and dearest. Because it is the ultimate expression of human unfaithfulness, it is repulsive to the divine nature and God hates it.
Malachi goes on to explain that in the mind of God divorce and violence are linked. In God’s eyes, divorce is violence directed against our own family; it is violence against our own flesh and blood, violence against our husband or wife, violence against our children. There can be no more brutal act than perpetrating violence against our marriage partner and children who are dependent on our love and protection. The spectacle of the terrible violence unleashed by divorce is clearly visible to all around. Because divorce is violence against the family, it is hateful to God. He hates divorce because of what it does to the families involved; the devastation and suffering that result are highly displeasing to him.
In particular, God hates the suffering of the children involved in divorces. God hates it when a home is broken and a family shattered. Godhates it when children are deprived of father or mother by divorce. God loathes the heartbreak of the children, and the loneliness experienced by the divorced husband and wife. It is not good for man to be alone and divorce results in loneliness. It is not good for children to be deserted by their parents, and divorce results in deserted children. It is unthinkable that God could have any other attitude to divorce. The message of Malachi is that God hates divorce.
Dearly beloved, remember that if you are divorced and have remarried, you WILL not make it to Heaven until you are reunited with your first spouse. You are living in adultery as long as you stayed married to that other woman or man. The Bible says “whosoever shall put away his wife and marrieth another commits adultery, and whosoever marrieth her that is put away commits adultery…But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife” (1 Corinthian 7:11). The Word of God is simple and plain, don’t let any backslidden pastor or clergyman to deceive you. If you really want to make it to HEAVEN, you must make things right NOW. Otherwise, your church activities and your philanthropically attitude would be in vain. Remember, God hates divorce.
Thanks for response about my divource issues, i still need more clearity on the clauses that relates to mariage, i and wife was boy friend and girl friend before she got pregnant for me and till now, there has not be any mariage covenant between us either from the family, church of court of law. Though i had promise my God that if she come back i shall formalise my mariage to the one acceptable to God. Please i need your help. I dont want commit sins inrespect to fornication. Thanks and God bless and renew your annointing.
If your woman is not married and she comes back to you . You must accept her back. And fully perform the marriage rites .
Thanks but if she does not come back what can i do.
I need your help saints. I have just found out that my husband has been secrectly having an affair with a prostitute. He is never at home but at the beer hall with that same prostitute everyday. In this instance should i divorce him. I am so hurt please help me!!
Dear Cynthia, you need to critically study your husband past and compare it with the pressent, study him and try to undastand the reason for his action, it might be you have offended him or the kinds of friends he keeps, or you are not trying to update yourself to his taste. Ask him in the day and in the night and do that with great respect and above all commit his heart to the hands of God.
I appreciate the insight into the topic of divorce & remarriage, however in an instance where it was not God ordained marriage what do you do? Becase I believe marriage should be founded on Christ, the Rock of our salvation. Please advice