| by pastor Adeboye |
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Memorise: “And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us” (Rom 5:5) Read: Ephesians 5:25-33 |
| “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Eph 5:25). One fundamental command every married man must observe is to love his wife. If after you sought God and He led you to your wife, yet you observed that you do not have love for her, do not panic. Just ask! If God is in that relationship, as you ask, you would be given and you would begin to grow in love towards your spouse.
Every Christian husband has the capacity to love. You are a love child of a loving God, hence love has been spread in your heart by the Holy Spirit (Rom 5:5). The summary of all that is expected from a man towards his wife is love. Some husbands say that they find it difficult to love their wives. Loving your wife is not optional but a must. If you fail to love your wife, God will hold you responsible for the failure of your home.
Everyone loves himself or herself. The extent to which you love yourself becomes a yardstick for measuring your love for others. God says you must love your wife as yourself. Unfortunately, some people do not love themselves. If you are a drunkard, smoker or drug addict, you hate yourself.
If you are a thief, fornicator, homosexual or lesbian, you hate yourself because you are destroying your body. Any man who does not love himself cannot love his wife. What you cannot do to yourself should not be done to your spouse. If you love your wife, it will show on her .
You will identify a woman who is unloved by her husband from her dressing. If you show no concern for your wife’s dressing and you allow her to put on rags, be shabby or look haggard, it is evident that you do not love her.
If her body has any scar from slaps, punches or floggings on your account, it shows you do not love her. If she is looking skinny and starved of food, sex and companionship, you hate her. If your wife’s face is always gloomy, sad and depressed, it shows you do not love her. If you love your wife, it will show on her- health, countenance and appearance. Does your professed love for your wife reflect on her body?
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| Take a good look at your wife and identify all the physical and psychological scars you have brought on her. Lovingly compensate her for each. |
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