How to abstain from sexual sins (1.e premarital sexual practices)
To abstain from sexual sins means refraining from or not engaging in any form of unlawful sexual practices. The following are what to do:
- (1) Set your life goal (s).
- (2) Think and write down the different possible ways premarital sexual practise can hinder the achievement of the goal(s) and the different possible ways abstinence from pre-marital sexual practices can enhance the achievement of the goals (s).
- (3) Make a strong decision not to engage in any sexual practices until you are married.
- (4) Stand by your decision.
How to stand by your decision not to engaged in sexual sins.
- 1. Identify situation that are likely to lead to sexual acts and avoid them.
Examples of such situation are:
- – Thought of sexual acts
- – Discussion about sexual or romantic acts especially with the opposite sex.
- – Intimate relationship with the opposite sex e.g. as prayer partner or study mate.
- – Being alone in a secluded place with the opposite sex
- – Unguarded physical body contact with the opposite sex.
- – Wearing suggestive firms, listening to suggestive music or reading dirty literature
- 2. Say ‘No’ effectively to sexual advance by doing the following
- a. Use and repeat the word ‘No’
- b. Say ‘no’ with your body language e.g. your facial expression, your gesture, tone of your voice, etc.
- c. Don’t send mixed contradict the ‘no’ coming from your mouth.
- d. Walk away from the scene (where it is possible)
- 3. Keep yourself busy by engaging in profitable activities like joining units in the church and being very active there.
- 4. Fast regularly to subdue your flesh
- 5. Read your bible regularly. Some of what it does is to cleanse and renew your mind.
- 6. Always ask God for grace to remain pure; don’t ever feel you are too strong to fall (1 Corinthians 10 verse 12)
